As a working mum, I’ve always felt (and still feel) the tug-of-war between my professional responsibilities and my role at home. Today, however, was such a great reminder that those worlds don’t have to always be at war. My workplace hosted the most amazing kids’ Christmas party, and it was one of the most joyous events I’ve experienced in a long time. Seeing my colleagues, their families, and my own children come together in a festive setting was a breath of fresh air.
I was pessimistic about going in the first place, but I heard so many great reviews from last year’s event and the fact that it was free, I just thought we didn’t have anything to lose and so we went. Work is often demanding, and it’s easy to get so caught up in deadlines and meetings that we forget we are more than employees. We’re parents, carers, aunts, uncles, and grandparents – and these are roles that will always come first. It’s funny because last week at a recent work meeting, one of the speakers reminded me of this in the most inspiring way. She shared that she couldn’t attend the meeting in person because her daughter had a nativity play. She said something simple yet powerful: “Being a mum comes first.” 💕
Her words have stuck with me ever since. It was a moment of validation, especially for someone like me, who has often felt the pressure of balancing two very important roles. I’ve always known my kids come first, but that doesn’t make the balancing act any easier. Like many parents, I’ve had moments of guilt and self-doubt, wondering if I’m giving enough of myself to both my children and my job.
I still remember my first day back at work after my boys were born. My heart felt like it was being squeezed, and the car ride to the office was almost unbearable. My chest was tight, and I was convinced I’d be physically sick from the anxiety. Leaving them behind, even for a few hours, felt unnatural. I spent every opportunity checking in with them by calling, FaceTiming, and eagerly waiting for pictures and updates. Even this was not easy as I had to “excuse” myself by locking myself in the bathroom crying on a phone call that sometimes lasted for 10 minutes 😅then do up my makeup and walk out as if nothing happened. Was I being dramatic? Maybe. But as a young, first-time mum in her early 20’s, the separation felt overwhelming, and I struggled to find peace with it.
Fast forward to today, and things feel so much different. My boys are older now, and I’m incredibly grateful to work in a place that’s flexible and understands the realities of parenting. This Christmas party was the perfect example of how work and family can coexist in a way that feels harmonious rather than conflicting.
The event itself was nothing short of perfect. My boys had the time of their lives! From dancing, an elf making dinosaur balloons to having their faces painted, every detail was thoughtfully planned to create a memorable day for the kids. They got to meet Santa who gave them nice presents, collect reindeer food, and even visit the dinosaurs at Jurassic Newpark in Kilkenny. Although we decided to skip the Jurassic Bounce because it was too cold, it didn’t take away from everything else that had been done.
As a family, we enjoyed being part of the fun and joyful environment where we could simply have fun. It was lovely seeing my colleagues out of the usual “work headspace.” Even on the calmest days in the office, work comes with its own mindset – focused, structured, and, let’s be honest, sometimes a little stressful. This event allowed us to connect on a more personal level, sharing laughs and stories while watching our kids play.
I can’t say enough about how much it meant to me to see my family and work life come together in such a beautiful way. For a few hours, there was no “mum versus worker” dilemma. I was simply a mum who works, a parent who loves her kids deeply and also values her role in the workplace.
This experience brought back memories of when I first became a mother and felt the weight of returning to work so soon. Back then, the thought of juggling both roles felt like an impossible task. Over time, I’ve learned that it’s not about choosing one over the other but about finding balance and, when possible, creating moments like today where the two can connect effortlessly.
I’m so grateful to work in a place that recognizes the importance of family. It’s not just about providing flexibility; it’s about creating opportunities for connection, joy, and togetherness. This kids’ Christmas party wasn’t just an event – it was a reminder of what truly matters. It showed me that work doesn’t always have to pull us away from our families; sometimes, it can bring us closer together.
A huge thank-you to my work and everyone who made this event possible. The smiles on the children’s faces, the laughter and joy in the lead up to Christmas were priceless. My boys will be talking about meeting Santa and playing with their new toys until Christmas and I’ll always cherish the memory of this day.
As we move further into the Christmas season, I’m carrying this reminder with me: while work is important, our roles as parents, carers, and family members come first. It’s not always easy to find the balance, but moments like this make it all worthwhile.
Here’s to celebrating the blessing of family and the joy of the Christmas season.
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